Parents teach how to have healthy relationships ,

Parents teach how to have healthy relationships 

Well, I’m a teen- 15. My parents lack healthy communication and don’t know when and where to recognize it either. But, considering their circumstances growing up, it’s understandable. They were raised in a poor country, ny father had atheist parents and 7 other siblings. His father slept with all the women around town and everyone knew. His clothing wasn’t even mediocre and he lacked the attention he deserved as a child. Out of all of his siblings- he’s become the most  

 successful- the only one to have a job and a

 family that hasn’t abandoned him or vice versa, like my uncles. My mother grew up with an alcoholic father while depression was genetically rampant on her side of the family. You should know that children tend to take on the behavior of their guardians. I too, am guilty of this. I tend to raise my voice at my my younger siblings and lack anger control like my parents. But, because i had the benefit of growing up in a more mentally aware society, I was able to reach out to an adult (at school because, again, my parents aren’t the best to tell this kind of stuff to) and soon I’ll be receiving treatment for my depression, and will learn to properly build healthy relationships with others so that i can lead a healthy life. It’s not that parents DONT TEACH THEM HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS, it’s that whatever relationship is established is

 the only one the parent happens to know, or was raised by themselves. My parents don’t understand that setting extremely high expectations and comparing their children to others was unhealthy, until they witnessed the direct impacts it had on their oldest child, (me.)

In most cases, I’d suggest being subtle. Do your research. When they start raising their voice, or being violent. Take it and don’t react- later, when they’ve calmed down and try to talk to you, apologize but also explain how you feel- be calm- they may not listen and that’s likely. When you’ve reached your limit of trying- reach out to an experienced adult, one with counseling experience because they understand how to talk to them without you ending up hurt by the situation.

Edit: I am finally getting a therapist and treatment after being diagnosed with depression. The right environment and good communication can makes things way less complicated (and expensive). If your parents can’t help you, reach out to your school counselor, cps, someone. Just be careful of what you say. Your school counselor is your safest option. Cps goes extreme.

Parents should have a positive and friendly relationship with their children. There should be a relationship of trust and respect between them. They should Stick to their promises so that a trusty relationship builds with their children. When Children need support, they should always be by their side. They should support them mentally and physically. Try to respect the opinions of your children. Parents should Provide them with a friendly environment so that they can share their thoughts and feelings with their parents

Listening to your child is most important to developing a good relationship with your children. You should listen to your children. Connections between child and parents start with listening. Acknowledge your child's feelings and show them that you are listening to and understanding them. Try to see things from your child's perspective. Listening to your child will create mutual respect. If you make them able to speak openly with you, it will give them much confidence that they can speak in front of people and convey their thoughts and ideas to others.

You should give them freedom so that they can explore the world and explore themselves as well. They should show acceptance of what they are doing and let them be. Please don't give them directions all the time.

If they fail to do something, parents should understand, and despite discouraging them, they should Provide support to them and tell them to do the same thing again and again. Let them learn from their own mistakes. Remove the fear of failure from their minds. Encourage them even on their most minor achievements without any judgments. Tell them that you are here for them no matter what. These all are just small things but matters most.